COMBATTING THE ‘CONTROL FREAK’ (PART 2)

Combatting 'control freaks' is easy when you know how...

Arm yourself with the following defence strategies: 1. Keep calm Think calming, peaceful thoughts while you are under assault. A gentle flowing stream? A warm and sunny summer’s day etc.? You get my drift.  You can even attempt taking subtle deep breaths and concentrate on that. Try not to get angry (I know that’s easier […]

COMBATTING THE ‘CONTROL FREAK’ (PART 1)

Combatting 'control freaks' is easy when you know how...

There are a lot of ‘control freaks’ out there.   I’ve certainly met more than a few. You’d perhaps think you would experience it less as you grew older – being wiser and more able and confident to make more decisions independently. People would take a step back, letting you flourish and mature into the […]

THE B****HIT OF BEING THE BACKUP FRIEND

Being a 'backup' friend is extremely lonely

It’s a weird, hollow feeling. If it wasn’t so upsetting you could laugh at the ridiculousness of it all. I’m talking about being the backup friend. Have you been consigned to the role of mere backup friend? You know… a friend to someone that only gives you the time of day when all of their […]

STORY CORNER: THE MAGICIAN AND THE GENIE

Which one are you??

The magician and the genie Friend or foe? The magician reaps rewards Whilst the other suffers woe. The magician and the genie In the present day, The magician talks about himself Whilst the genie gets no say. The magician and the genie, One’s selfishness dictates. The magician demands advice But no offer to reciprocate. The […]

WELL THAT JUST SUCKS!! (PART 3)

No sexy creature of the night for you - I'm talking about the toxic creature of negativity!!

Is the vampire a loved one, relative or a friend? If yes, tell the vampire in a nice yet assertive way how it comes across and how it makes you feel. Sometimes the vampire may not in fact be aware of its effect on others. Try to ascertain (sensitively!) whether there is an underlying cause […]

WELL THAT JUST SUCKS!! (PART 2)

Who Is The Vampire?

Well? Do you know the different types of emotional vampire? Are you in fact one of them? Let’s look at them now… The perpetual victim This vampire is unfortunately one of the most draining. There is always some turmoil occurring in its life and it plays the starring role. Drama follows it at every turn […]

WELL THAT JUST SUCKS!! (PART 1)

The Emotional Vampire

Your head is banging. You clumsily fumble for the aspirin. You feel drained. Anaemic. Your lifeforce has been mercilessly and relentlessly sucked from you. What’s happened? You’ve encountered a vampire and unfortunately for you not the attractive sort. No sexy creature of the night. No easy-on-the-eye Klaus, Elijah or Marcel from ‘The Originals’ or even […]