Did you know that failure is actually a GOOD thing???
Yes, it really is!
I know it probably doesn’t feel like it at the time. In fact, depending on how great the failure is at the time, you might feel like wallowing in self-pity or raging at the world and/or anyone who dares to approach you.
Be miserable – it’s good to deal with your emotions – but not for too long (and try not to take it out on others!). You don’t want to remain in a permanent funk!
You can fail in minor things, or as I call it, fail majorly in spectacular style! And even the most seemingly perfect and successful of people have failed occasionally in their lives. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.
So I want you to congratulate yourself.
So, your plan didn’t work out. Yes, it would have been great if it did, but that’s not the point I’m trying to make here. The point is that you were brave enough to take a risk – good for you! And failure is such a terrific teacher! It has helped me to reassess things and establish where I went wrong so I don’t make the same mistake again. It’s just one important step on the way to success.
Failure shouldn’t be regarded as a dirty, taboo word. And the person who has failed shouldn’t be treated with reproach or disdain. Yet we unfortunately do, casting judgment like we are immune from ever making a single mistake. We pretend our failures don’t exist. And we try to bury our own deep in the ground, out of sight and out of mind.
But to bury your failure is to possibly bury your potential greatness. After all, how can you dare to win if you aren’t prepared to fail?
If you are petrified of failing, it will seriously hamper your chances of succeeding. You can’t succeed at the new if you aren’t willing to try new things, and this means taking risks. Playing it always safe, cocooned in protective bubble wrap and cotton wall, can be stifling and prove extremely counter-productive. While those who try, but fail at the first hurdle and feel too disillusioned to continue could be missing out on something truly wondrous. Don’t settle for mediocrity if you don’t have to.
Everyone makes mistakes but it is the courage to pick yourself up and dust yourself off that truly counts. And it is to be admired. Those who have done their research, and make a calculating risk, are bright lights and their lights should not be dimmed. The more you do things outside of your comfort zone, the more likely you are to fail at some point, but at least you are daring to try, whilst others simply watch. Those who fail in this way are pioneers, making long and arduous journeys filled with mistakes, so that they may safely guide others along the same route.
Someone has to do it, so why not you?
Embrace your mistakes. After your initial emotions have waned, ask yourself, where and why your project went awry, and then find a way to rectify it. A valuable learning experience! There is more than one route to a destination. When one way is shut or a dead end, find another way. There is always another way. And at least now you know what not to do! In the words of Thomas A. Edison:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Failure is not the end, it is just the beginning.
And it can be one of the most truly enlightening experiences you will ever have!